Lori Young, a Ready for Love alum, decided she was done settling for crumbs of affection, heartbreak, and controlling men. Instead of buying the couch she’d been saving for, Lori put that money into herself—and it changed everything.
In this conversation with me, Lori shares how she broke old patterns, stopped confusing drama for chemistry, and learned to ask for what she actually wanted. Today she’s married to a secure, steady partner, thriving in her career, and bold enough to run for city council.
If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the same relationship story and wondering why nothing changes, Lori’s story will challenge you to ask: when are you going to stop playing small and finally invest in yourself?
 
Episode Highlights:
The Saturday night moment that pushed Lori to finally say “enough”
Why investing in yourself is smart money
The Chinese finger trap metaphor that freed her from control games
How to stop chasing fireworks and start choosing safe, steady love
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Meet Lori Young
02:53 The Journey to Self-discovery
05:55 Investing in Yourself
08:52 Lessons from the Ready For Love Program
12:09 Embracing New Opportunities
14:57 Navigating New Relationships
17:49 Finding Authenticity
21:04 Celebrating Growth and Success
23:57 The Power of Community
26:58 Fearless, Unafraid, Unintimidated
 
✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.
💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.
🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.
 
✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 
🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass
💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

You can spend thousands on a matchmaker or swipe until your thumbs go numb, but if you keep running into the same disappointing patterns, the real question isn’t “where are all the good men?” The real question is how are you showing up when you meet them?
In this episode, Hilary unpacks why so many smart, successful women struggle in love even when everything looks perfect on the outside. Ghosting, mismatches, and one-sided relationships aren’t the problem themselves—they’re signals of something deeper. When self-doubt, fear, or insecurity color your energy, the wrong men move closer and the right ones step away.
So how do you stop chasing quick fixes and instead become the woman who naturally attracts the kind of love you want? Hilary shares why identity work—not dating hacks—is the real key, and what changes when you finally treat yourself as the priority first.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why spending money on a matchmaker rarely fixes the real issue
The “tree” metaphor that explains dating struggles at the root level
How self-doubt and fear act like a magnet for the wrong men
What high-quality men actually notice (and what makes them turn away)
Why identity work is more powerful than any dating tactic
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 The Matchmaker Myth
01:05 The Real Problem: Who You’re Being
02:31 The Tree Analogy of Dating Patterns
06:01 Why You Attract the Wrong Men
09:09 Identity Work and Self-Worth
10:54 Why Matchmakers Fail
13:00 Becoming Your Future Self
 
✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.
💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.
🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.
 
✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 
🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass
💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you’ve ever blamed your single status on men being “intimidated,” it’s time for a reality check. That story might feel good at the moment, but it’s keeping you from the very connection you want.
In this episode, Hilary calls BS on the idea that your success is the reason love hasn’t worked out. With 25 years of experience coaching powerhouse women, she breaks down what’s really going on when you hear that “intimidating” feedback. Spoiler: it’s less about men being scared and more about the energy you’re putting out.
Hilary shows how many women hide their softer, more vulnerable sides behind achievements, creating a vibe that feels aloof or unapproachable. The good news? You don’t have to shrink your brilliance to find love—you just need to integrate the strong and the soft so you can be powerful and open.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why “men are intimidated by me” is a story that keeps women stuck
What’s really happening when you hear that feedback on dates
How success can become a shield that hides your softer side
The vibe that comes across as guarded or unapproachable
Why you don’t need to shrink your achievements to attract love
The key to integrating strength and vulnerability so connection can grow
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 The “Men Are Intimidated by Me” Myth
01:50 Why Mainstream Advice on Intimidation Misses the Point
03:57 The Tootsie Pop Analogy: Tough Exterior, Soft Inside
04:29 Hiding Behind Success and Achievements
05:41 How to Integrate Strength and Vulnerability
07:15 Breaking Free and Inviting Love In
 
If you’re tired of hiding behind your résumé and ready to let love in, this episode is your wake-up call.
✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.
💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.
🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.
🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

Wanting love and being ready for it aren’t the same thing. You might be on the apps, going on dates, even hiring a matchmaker—but if you keep finding yourself in the cycle of “hot and heavy” followed by fade and fizzle, the problem may be pacing.
In this episode, Hilary unpacks the anxious dating behaviors that push love away and she lays out five concrete ways to date with emotional security rather than a sense of urgency. From keeping your schedule intact, to knowing when to hold back on texting or intimacy, Hilary shows you how to stop spiraling into fantasy and start building real connection—without losing yourself in the process.
If you’ve ever skipped Pilates to wait for his call, or decided you were all-in by the third date, this conversation is your reset. 
 
Episode Highlights:
Wanting love vs. actually being ready for it — why they’re not the same
The role of pacing and how falling too fast sabotages connection
Matching his effort, not his potential, to avoid heartbreak
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Are You Really Ready for Love?
03:27 The Pitfalls of Falling Too Fast
04:52 Five Ways Women Date with Confidence
05:03 Tip 1: Stay Focused on Your Own Life
06:05 Tip 2: Keep Early Dates Short and Intentional
07:08 Tip 3: Match His Effort, Not His Potential
07:51 Tip 4: Delay Physical Intimacy
09:15 Tip 5: Don't Build a Bond Over Text
10:08 Attracting Emotionally Available Men
 
Healthy, emotionally available men are attracted to confidence, patience, and balance—not eagerness or desperation. Date from security, and you’ll naturally filter out the wrong men while attracting the ones who are truly ready.
 
✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.
💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.
🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.
 
👉 Watch Hilary’s free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass
Or apply for a free breakthrough call with her team at https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Most women I talk to over 40, 50, and 60 say the same thing: “I never thought I’d be here, dating at this stage of life.” And let’s be honest, midlife dating often gets a bad rap. But the truth? It can be the BEST time in your life to find real love… if you know how to approach it.
In this episode, we talk about why dating now can be easier, more authentic, and more fulfilling than ever—and how shifting your perspective can change everything.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why dating now can feel easier and more authentic than ever
The freedom that comes from wanting—not needing—a partner
How showing up as your true self changes who you attract
Why self-acceptance is magnetic
How trusting yourself shapes every choice you make in love
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Dating Over 50: Why It’s the Best Time for Love  
00:53 Meet Hilary 
01:47 Midlife Dating Truths  
02:07  Reason 1: Maturity & Clarity  
03:44 Reason 2: Desire, Not Need  
05:08 Reason 3: Authentic Self  
07:06 Reason 4: Confidence & Magnetism  
08:52 Reason 5: Self-Trust & Boundaries
10:28 Why It’s Never Too Late for Love  
 
Dating now isn’t about chasing chemistry or proving your worth—it’s about finding a true, equal partnership that adds to your already beautiful life.
 
✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.
💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.
🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.
🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass
💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Blind spots can quietly wreck your dating life long before you realize they’re there. And for high-achieving women, they’re sneaky. You can be doing all the “right” things on paper and still keep ending up with the wrong men—or no men at all.
Hilary’s breaking down the four biggest ones she sees over and over again. Are you sending mixed signals without realizing it? Mistaking career confidence for genuine self-worth? Letting yourself be chosen instead of actually choosing? Or telling yourself you’re “working on it” when nothing has actually changed?
Each blind spot comes with a hard truth and a way forward. And once you see them, you can’t unsee them—which is exactly how you stop getting in your own way.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why mixed signals can repel the kind of partner you actually want
The difference between situational confidence and genuine self-worth
How “being chosen” keeps you stuck in relationships that don’t fit
The myth that dating is a numbers game (and what really works)
Why self-awareness is the fastest way to change your love life
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 How Blind Spots Block Love
01:04 Hilary Silver and Ready for Love
01:36 Blind Spot #1: Ambivalence in Dating
04:15 Blind Spot #2: Low Self-Worth in High Achievers
07:04 Blind Spot #3: Waiting to Be Chosen
09:23 Blind Spot #4: Hoping Love Just Happens
12:22 How to Attract the Love You Want
 
Ready to stop being your own biggest obstacle? 
Apply for a call with Hilary’s team to see if Ready for Love is the right fit for you: hillarysilver.com/apply

He disappears. No explanation, no closure, just gone. And you’re left questioning everything: Did I do something wrong? Was any of it even real?
In this episode, Hilary calls out the emotional whiplash of ghosting and gives you three power moves to shift out of helplessness and back into your worth. And no,  it’s not about getting answers from him, it’s about giving closure to yourself.
If you’ve ever been left on read and spiraled into doubt, this conversation is your emotional reset.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why ghosting feels like betrayal, even if it wasn’t serious
The trap of psychoanalyzing him (and how it keeps you stuck)
Three power moves to stop the spiral and reclaim your self-worth
How to make peace with the ending, without needing his permission
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 The Pain of Being Ghosted
02:53 Why Trying to Understand Him Keeps You Stuck
05:11 Power Move #1: Take Inventory Without Self-Blame
06:17 Power Move #2: Detach Your Worth From His Behavior
09:02 Power Move #3: Redefine the Experience and Reclaim Closure
11:20 How to Heal and What Comes Next
 
Being ghosted doesn’t mean you’re not worthy. It means he couldn’t meet you where you are. And thank God he’s gone before you invested any more of yourself.
💻 Watch Hilary’s free masterclass:  https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass/
💖 Apply for a breakthrough call: http://hilarysilver.com/apply

You’ve got your life together: thriving career, financial independence, emotional intelligence, and yet your love life? A hot mess of emotionally unavailable, underemployed, or unstable men. What gives?
In this episode, Hilary calls it like it is: this pattern isn’t about the men. It’s about you. More specifically, your subconscious beliefs, unresolved self-worth issues, and fear of real intimacy.
Hilary breaks down 7 brutally honest reasons smart, successful women keep dating down—and how to stop. From choosing men who need you so they won’t leave, to settling for “projects” instead of partners, she gets to the root of why high-achieving women sabotage their own love lives.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why you freeze (or flee) when a high-quality man actually shows up
How caretaking can be a way of earning love when you don’t believe you’re enough
The hidden fears that drive you to choose men who feel “safe” but drain you
Why identity work, not another dating strategy, is the real key to change
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why Smart Women Keep Dating Down
01:25 What “Dating Down” Really Means
03:10 Reason #1: Feeling Not Good Enough
05:06 Reason #2: Tying Your Worth to Being Needed
07:03 Reason #3: Fear of Abandonment
10:15 Reason #5: Fear of Real Intimacy
14:29 Reason #7: Dating from Loneliness
16:03 How to Break the Pattern for Good
 
Hilary doesn’t just name the problem, she offers the way out. Because when you stop outsourcing your worth, everything shifts.
Want the kind of love that matches the rest of your success? Start by becoming the version of you who actually believes she deserves it.
🔗 Learn more about Hilary’s Ready for Love program: http://hilarysilver.com/apply

Everyone’s suddenly an expert on attachment styles. Anxious, avoidant, disorganized—it’s all over your feed, and maybe even your therapist’s office. But here’s the truth: if you’re trying to use attachment theory to decode every date and relationship, it’s keeping you stuck.
In this episode, Hilary is  breaking down why obsessing over your (and his) attachment style is doing more harm than good, and what actually matters when you’re looking for real love.
If you’re a smart, self-aware woman who’s done the work but still isn’t seeing results in your love life, this might be why. Because knowing better doesn’t automatically mean doing better. And the answer isn’t more information—it’s radical self-trust, embodied confidence, and knowing how to assess how a relationship feels instead of overthinking why someone acts the way they do.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why therapy, books, and expert advice often lead to “knowing better but not doing better”
The trap of over-intellectualizing your love life
What to look for in a relationship that actually matters
How long-term love evolves, and why labels won’t help you grow it
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why Attachment Styles Are Keeping You Single
02:21 Information Doesn’t Equal Transformation
04:46 The Problem with Overthinking and Intellectualizing Love
06:06 The Danger of Labeling Your Partner (or Yourself)
08:02 What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like
09:16 Stop Fixating on Him, Focus on You
 
If you're ready to stop psychoanalyzing every text and start showing up as the woman who knows what she wants and how to get it—this episode is for you.
🎧 Watch the free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass/
📞 Apply for a call with our team: https://hilarysilver.com/apply/
🔗 Ready for More Membership Waitlist → https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/

You’ve got the career, the confidence, the killer heels… so why are all the men you're meeting either emotionally unavailable, totally underwhelming, or gone after two dates?
Here’s the hard truth: It’s not about them. It’s about you.
Not because you’re broken or “too much”, but because there’s a disconnect between the woman you look like on the outside and the one you’re being on the inside. And good men? They can feel that.
 
Episode Highlights:
The subconscious beliefs sabotaging your love life (yep, even if you’re “putting yourself out there”)
Why men aren’t intimidated by your success, they’re turned off by your walls
The hidden ways your self-talk is killing your vibe
And what it really takes to attract a healthy, high-caliber man
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why You’re Not Meeting Good Men
03:04 The Myth of the Secret Place Men Are Hiding
04:17 Reason #1: Limiting Beliefs Are Repelling Love
05:31 Reason #2: Fear of Intimacy and Vulnerability
08:01 Reason #3: Looking High-Value on the Outside, Not Inside
10:08 You Must Become the Woman Who Can Receive Love
11:44 Real-Life Stories: When Good Men Start Appearing
12:26 Stop Searching. Start Showing Up Differently
 
There’s no underground speakeasy of good men you haven’t been invited to. They’re all around, you just can’t see them until you become the woman who’s ready to meet them.
Door #3 is waiting. But first, you’ve got to stop playing defense and start playing real.
💥 Apply for a breakthrough call: https://hilarysilver.com/apply

Ever feel like you're on date #200, with the same guy?
In this episode, Hilary breaks down emotional unavailability for what it actually is: a lack of real intimacy. If you're attracting men who can't go deep, there's a reason. And it may have more to do with you than you think.
For high-functioning women especially, this is a sneaky blind spot. You might be warm, flirty, and fun—but still totally guarded. You might talk about your emotions, but not feel them in real time. And that performative intimacy? It’s what keeps real connection out of reach.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why emotional unavailability isn’t just a “man” problem
The two biggest reasons people avoid true intimacy
The subtle difference between being expressive and actually being emotionally available
How to finally break the pattern by turning inward
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why “200 First Dates” Is a Red Flag
01:51 What Emotional Availability Actually Means
02:45 Fear of Vulnerability and Rejection
04:19 Emotional Expression Is a Learnable Skill
06:06 Why Surface-Level Connection Isn’t Enough
08:04 How to Break the Pattern for Good
 
If you’re done settling for surface-level connections—or being the one who always “catches feelings” first—this is the episode for you.
💥 Ready to stop the cycle for good? Watch Hilary’s free masterclass for high-achieving women who want real, lasting love → http://hilarysilver.com/masterclass
🔗 Ready for More Membership Waitlist → https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/

You saw the red flags. You felt the gut punch. And still, you stayed.
If you’ve ever looked back on a relationship and thought, “How did I miss that?”, this episode is for you.
Hilary breaks down why smart, high-achieving women override their instincts—not because they’re clueless, but because they want love so badly they talk themselves out of what they already know. The chemistry was strong. The checklist looked good. And he did have potential. So you minimized, rationalized, and convinced yourself it wasn’t that bad… until it was.
 
Episode Highlights:
What happens when logic wins out over emotion (and why that’s not always a good thing)
The quiet ways high-functioning women betray themselves in love
How “I see the good in people” becomes a self-sabotaging mantra
Why your discomfort is more trustworthy than you think
The link between intuition and emotional fluency
How to stop brushing off the ick and start paying attention to it
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Recognizing Relationship Red Flags
02:29 Reason 1: Desire for the Ideal Relationship
04:15 Reason 2: Disconnection from Emotions
06:05 Reason 3: Seeing Only the Good in People
08:09 Understanding and Trusting Yourself
09:23 Finding the Sweet Spot in Relationships
 
Whether you're single and hopeful or already in a relationship, this conversation will challenge how you listen to your instincts, manage discomfort, and define what “being a good person” actually means.
Ready to stop turning the wrong man into the right one?
Start by learning how to trust yourself again.
Watch Hilary’s free masterclass for high-achieving women who are done ignoring red flags and ready to choose differently. 
👇 Get it Now!
🔗 Free Masterclass for Single Women → http://hilarysilver.com/masterclass
🔗 Ready for More Membership Waitlist → https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/
 

If you’ve been told to "just be more feminine" to attract a high-quality man—this episode is your permission slip to roll your eyes and delete that advice forever.
In this episode, Hilary unpacks the real meaning of feminine energy for strong, high-functioning women who are tired of being told to play small. She’s calling BS on the idea that you need to be more “demure,” wear more pink, or act helpless so a man can feel useful. (Spoiler: You don’t.)
 
Episode Highlights:
Why the “let him take the lead” narrative is secretly sabotaging your love life
What feminine energy actually looks like when you’re powerful, grounded, and self-sourced
The childhood beliefs that locked you into over-functioning and under-receiving
One 30-second shift to move from drive into flow (no crystals required)
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Feminine Energy Myths
01:37 Misconception #1:You need to Let Men Help You
02:15 Misconception #2:You Need to be Demure
03:31 The Deeper Truth About Feminine Energy
05:20 Becoming Magnetic in Love
06:36 Queens Don’t Chase
 
Ready to stop playing damsel and start sitting on your damn throne? 
👇 GET STARTED:
🔗 Free Masterclass for Single Women → http://www.hilarysilver.com/masterclass
🔗 Ready for More Membership Waitlist → https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/
🎥 Watch Next: The Over 40 Glow Up → https://youtu.be/9tcA0E1uFAE

They run companies, manage households, juggle a million responsibilities—and still find themselves accepting the bare minimum in love. Why?
In this Summer of Love kickoff, Hilary calls out the quiet epidemic of high-achieving women settling for less in their relationships. From doing all the emotional labor to accepting the bare minimum in return, Hilary spells out what “crumbs” really look like, and why so many women accept them without even realizing it.
The truth? Starving women eat crumbs. If you’ve spent a lifetime feeling emotionally underfed, even the smallest scrap of affection can feel like a meal. But that won’t get you the love you want, and it’s not your fault. The fix? Stop looking outward, and start filling yourself up from within.
If you’re ready to quit the chase and start receiving real love, this episode is your wake-up call.
 
Episode Highlights:
The subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs you're accepting crumbs
Why blaming men misses the point entirely
How emotional deprivation starts early—and shows up in dating
The difference between chasing love and attracting it
What it actually takes to become the woman who won’t settle
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Strong Women Settle for Crumbs in Love
[00:56] Signs You're Settling for Less in Relationships
[02:10] How It Feels When You Accept Less Than You Deserve
[03:01] The Real Problem Isn't Him—It's You
[04:07] How Early Experiences Shape Your Standards
[05:32] The Solution: Heal, Fill, and Stop Settling
[07:10] Learn How to Get What You Want
 
Stop chasing scraps and start receiving the whole damn cake. Hilary shows you how to go from starving to self-fed—and why you are the only one who can do it.
🔗 Ready to quit settling and attract real love? Grab Hilary’s free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass

Think you're doing all the work but still stuck? This episode might explain why.
Hilary breaks down the book that changed everything for her — and no, it wasn’t a psychology textbook, a trauma certification, or another high-ticket coaching program. It was an 85-page book from 1910: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles.
It’s not about money. It’s about mastering your mind, and understanding how your thoughts are either creating what you want... or reinforcing what you don’t.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why therapy, mindset work, and affirmations didn’t create lasting change
What “thinking truth regardless of appearances” really means (and why it’s so hard)
How to stop being a passive observer of your life and start becoming the architect
The real reason action without belief keeps you stuck
Why making the most of yourself is not selfish — it’s your responsibility
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Science of Getting Rich: What You’ve Been Missing
[01:14] Hilary’s Journey With the Book That Changed Everything
[03:54] How Your Thoughts Become Your Life
[05:52] Why Belief Must Come Before Proof
[07:27] Embodying the Version of You Who Has It
[08:41] Why Personal Growth Is Non-Negotiable
[11:10] Your Mind Is Your Greatest Asset
[12:14] Learn More + Work With Hilary
 
This is the episode to press play on if you’ve been “doing the work” but not seeing the results.
🔗 Resources:
 – Apply for Ready for Love: https://readyforloveinc.com/program/
 – Watch the free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/
 – You’ll also enjoy Listening To: How I Changed My Brain in 90 Days 
 – Read the book: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles